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I posted a set of vid recs to my DW: recs for the Avatar shows, Stranger Things, 80s slasher movies, X-Men movies, Torchwood, Babylon 5, Star Wars OT, and Schitt's Creek.
[I think this is the same situation as in conuly's last post but with more details]
Dear Eric: My husband and I have been together for 11 years. He has one daughter, 43, with two young children I adore and have been close to until last summer when the volcano erupted.
Since the beginning of our relationship, I have made every effort to be loving and generous to his daughter. She acts entitled and ungrateful to me.
Itβs my fault for not standing up for myself early in my joining the family. For example, I wish to be thanked for gifts, babysitting, making holidays happen, having them over for dinner and so on.
She doesnβt seem to care about me at all. Her father will not stand up to her and seems scared of her.
Last summer I blew up at her in a text and let her know how I feel about her behavior.
I called her a manipulative user and let her know my truth which is certainly not her truth. I apologized twice in two letters for being so harsh, but she will not forgive me, allow a repair or let me see the grandkids. Her father will not help. This is hurting our marriage.
I miss the little ones terribly and cried for months about this. Yes, I am in therapy and hoping my husband will go to couples counseling together. Funny, he is a psychotherapist. I would be most appreciative if you can offer us your help.
β Missing Family
Family: Ask yourself what you have the power to change and what you need to accept, even if you donβt like it.
For instance, you probably should accept that the relationship with your husbandβs daughter is not serving either one of you right now. And itβs probably because her relationship with your husband is not healthy. Itβs likely that some of the frustration youβre feeling stems from a desire to change something thatβs outside of your control.
You write that your husband wonβt help you. If you want him to compel his daughter to accept your apology, that might not actually be useful. Unfortunately, even though your relationship with the grandkids was, perhaps, healthy, the other relationships supporting it are less so.
So, what can you change? Well, youβre doing the most important first step by working on yourself in therapy. If your husband wonβt go to couples counseling (which he should), ask him why and ask him how he proposes to help you both communicate better.
Here's what I finished in December. Click pics to embiggen:
[Image Description: A red mini knitted sweater ornament. It features an applique of a green Christmas tree with yellow star.]
[Image Description: A green mini knitted sweater ornament. It features a crocheted applique of a candy cane.]
[Image Description: A crocheted phone stand in a coral color.]
[Image Description: A crocheted phone stand in a white and sandy gray color.]
[Image Description: An emergency Christmas Stocking crocheted in super bulky yarn. It is predominantly white, with marled red and green at the toe, heel turn, and trim, and was crocheted in 2.5 hours.]
Ravelry has a very casual Challenge tab, where you can set a goal for the number of items you want to make in a year. My output has been going down each year from my heyday in 2014-2017. I challenged myself to make 30 items this year; I finished 23.
Seventeen (17) of those FOs were crocheted, with six (6) knitted. I opted to include multiples as one project page, so that is a bit skewed. For instance, I have a page for each color of the knitted sweaters, but I actually made four (4) green ones and three (3) red ones.
Nine (9) items had their complete yarn usage filled out. All nine items were under 150 yards used. I made small things this year.
By far my most used yarn is worsted/aran weight, which I consider mostly interchangeable. Here's the breakdown in usage:
Thread: 2 Sport: 1 Worsted: 7 Aran: 6
So it doesn't sound like I actually did much this year, does it?
According to my spreadsheet, I did 462 crafting sessions. Some were just a few minutes; the longest session was 2 hours 41 minutes.
[Image Description: A pivot table, showing I crafted 104 hours in Crochet and 172 hours in Knitting this year.]
So I actually knit more than I crocheted this year, even if I didn't produce as many knitted items.
Looking at individual projects: I spent 48 hours, 41 minutes on a secret knitted project that I only half finished, almost 32 hours on the knitted legwarmers that I've been wearing, and 41 hours, 18 minutes on a crocheted cardigan (now mostly frogged, alas). Those were the "big" items.
I'll have another post soon, listing my WIPs to finish in 2026. Am I happy with my output in 2025? Well... kind of. I really would have liked to finish a garment for myself, but it wasn't meant to be. Maybe in 2026?
Well, as predicted, rec_cember went straight off a cliff, lol. I mean, to be fair, I was traveling for half the month, most of that time with other people, but I still hoped to get in another rec post or two than I actually did.
But I'll close out 2025 by reccing some vids! Since I got back into watching vids this past year, there are a bunch of new-to-me ones to share. For the Tumblr ones, since it now defaults to dash view (which you need to be logged in to see) I've tried to provide a non-logged-in version where possible.
We Didn't Start the Fire by beccatoria - ATLA & Legend of Korra There aren't very many canons that are long, varied, and epic enough to vid to this song, but this works really well and the clip selection is A++.
Ice Cream Man by Pennyplainknits - Stranger Things season 3 I had a lot of problems with season 3 and Steve's sailor outfit was definitely one of them, but this is a very cute, fun, and playful vid about it!
Human by kaydeefalls - X-Men movies, Mystique I'm going through a nostalgia phase for these movies after rewatching the first two back in October, and this is a lovely vid that does a great job with Mystique's arc across the various movies.
Pink Pony Club by torchwood-99 - Torchwood, Gwen [Non-logged-in Tumblr link] A wonderfully edited vid that does a fantastic job using the song lyrics to tell the two sides to Gwen's story on the show: she discovers her true calling and blossoms when the secret world of aliens opens up to her, but loses some of her humanity along the way.
What Was I Thinkin' by tafadhali - Star Wars OT, Han/Leia A fun, bouncy vid set to honky tonk country that (surprisingly? unsurprisingly?) works really well for Han Solo.
If I Had $1,000,000 by januarium - Schitt's Creek This canon/song pairing is INSPIRED and the editing and lip-syncing is great.
So here's the post I made at the beginning of this year. In it, I talked about getting a capture card and what games I would stream if I did/didn't get one. The list:
Non-capture card list 1. Star Ocean: First Departure R 2. Spider-man: Miles Morales 3. Rise of the Tomb Raider 4. World of Final Fantasy
Capture Card List 1. Lost Odyssey (assuming 360 still works) 2. Final Fantasy X-2 (Switch) 3. The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild (Switch) 4. Dirge of Cerberus: Final Fantasy VII (PlayStation 2)
The great news is that I **DID** buy a capture card for myself! Did I play any of the games on either of these lists? No!
In mid-year, I unearthed my Xbox 360 and set it up, because I really really wanted to stream Lost Odyssey, but alas, my 360 is refusing to read discs. Woe. So what single-player games did I stream instead?
1. Forspoken 2. Yonder: The Cloud Catcher Chronicles 3. Kingdom Hearts Final Mix 4. Kingdom Hearts: Chain of Memories (currently playing)
I admit Forspoken is not a GREAT game, but it's a decent one, and I really needed someone like Frey in my life at the time, so I had a really great time with it, probably better than most players. I'm of the opinion that the DLC was unneeded though.
Yonder is charming and sweet and was a nice palette cleanser. And I'm a long-time Kingdom Hearts fan, so it's been fun to revisit those games.
I also streamed FFXIV (of course) and FFXI, getting through 3 of its expansions and on the fourth. I intend to continue playing both games in 2026. I mean, it's pretty much a given right now.
For single-player games in 2026: planning on getting through the entire Kingdom Hearts franchise on stream. That will take a good chunk of the year. Afterwards, I have plans on playing the Tomb Raider series, which I'm really looking forward to.
If there's anything I do differently in 2026 - I'd like to play some more single-player games OFF STREAM. I just feel like I would enjoy, say, FFT:IC more if I didn't have people in stream explaining the game to me. The problem is that I too often default to playing FFXIV, so it will be a challenge to play other games.
The two I'm most aiming for playing in 2026:
1. Clair Obscur: Expedition 33 2. Final Fantasy Tactics: Ivalice Chronicles
Looking at my Steam & Epic libraries, other games that I might play are:
1. Portal (yes, I have never played it!) 2. Mass Effect 3. Cat Quest (on Epic)
Out of those, I'm most interested in 1 and 3. I dutifully bought Mass Effect because it was cheap, but I did own it on 360 and gave it a try then and at least then, it was Not For Me. But that was a long time ago, so maybe my tastes have changed?
I've given a thought lately to acquiring Dragon Age: Origins and finishing a play of that. I had gotten about halfway through the game, romancing Alistair, and then got REALLY FUCKING EMBARRASSED BY IT and had to quit. I do recall mostly enjoying what I had played of the game, so it would be good to someday revisit. But I'd need a new copy, since see above re: 360 not reading discs.
Finally: I played some casual games this year, including:
1. Word Shaker 2. WordScapes 3. Cats Love Boxes 4. Sudocats 5. Lara Croft Go
I would like to continue with these! I don't foresee NOT playing the first two, at least - they are my "grab a device and unwind for a few minutes" games. Word Shaker and WordScapes both are ongoing, never-ending games, but the last three should have completion statuses. Heck, maybe I'll play some Sudocats now.
Buffy: I hate this. I hate being here. I hate that you have to be
here. I hate that thereβs evil and that I was chosen to fight
it. I wish a whole lot of the time that I hadnβt been. I know
a lot of you wish I hadnβt been, either. But this isnβt about
wishes. This is about choices. I believe we can beat this evil.
Not when it comes. Not when its army is ready. Now.
Tomorrow morning Iβm opening the Seal. Iβm going down
into the Hellmouth and Iβm finishing this once and for all.
buy back the secrets by sundiscus 5 times Superboy saves Tim Drake, and one time Tim Drake saves Superboy. Wonderful! <333
Jason and the Three Terrors by Cdelphiki One moment, Jason was peacefully sleeping, perfectly content with his life with the League of Assassins. Okay, so maybe not content content, but he wasn't unhappy, either. Then Talia woke him up at 2 am, threw three children at him, and told him to get them to America and far away from Ra's al Ghul.
What the fuck.
The last thing he wanted was to see Bruce. But with three brats relying on him and no Talia, there weren't many options for sanctuary. He just didn't expect the kids to grow on him so much in two short weeks. EPIC (326K words) AU where Talia sends Jason away from the League with Damian, Athanasia, and Mara, and their many adventures on the way home to Gotham. Engrossing read, highly recommended.
Puzzles Made of Broken Glass by thatcuriouscat Timmy Drake's parents go missing. He's the only one who notices. This is a long, entertaining, engrossing story about how Tim joins the Batfamily early. Oh, Tim. Highly recommended. <333
Resurgam by Nokomis Bored during her pregnancy leave from being Spoiler, Steph decides to follow Robin and ends up in a cemetery. Only, something follows her home. <333
Welp, I did not post these as regularly this year as I'd hoped but I can at least round out 2025 with a final, on-time entry. I hope everyone is had/is having/will have a good end to 2025, as appropriate for your part of the world!
What I Finished Reading This Week
Holly, Reindeer, and Colored Lights - Edna Barth This book is a nostalgic holiday reread for me. It's part frustrating (no, druids did not worship Thor or Odin) and fascinating (as a snapshot of what popular knowledge about niche topics looked like in the pre-Internet age). While the presumed audience and focus is largely continental North American christian culture, these books may very well have been the first place I ever heard about Puerto Rico, or Bolivia, or the Sami, and therefore played a part in interesting me in the world. βIn the African Republic of Ghana, groups of Christian families buy cows, sheep, and goats to be slaughtered for the Christmas feast. Among Christians of Abyssinia a favorite Christmas dish is raw meatβ reads one paragraph in the nine-page βChristmas Feastingβ chapter. As a child, Abyssinia would have seemed like an impossibly far off place, wondrously unlike anything in my daily life. Today, I know that Abyssinia is just Ethiopia and Eritrea and the βraw meatβ from that Christmas dish is just kitfo, and I can walk out my front door and order it at over half-a-dozen restaurants in less than 15 minutes. Which is in itself its own kind of wondrous.
Irish Tin Whistle Tutorial vol. 1 β Mary Bergin Mary Bergin is one of the marquee players of this instrument. As this is just the first volume of three, I can't meaningfully compare her entire method to other tutors on the market, but it is hands down the most thorough introduction to tonguing patterns anywhere--a vital element that's often given short shrift by other instructors.
Irish Legends for Children β Yvonne Carroll & Lucy Su This book contains six retellings of Irish legends, including The Children of Lir, two from the Ulster Cycle, and three from the Fenian Cycle. The retellings are nicely done and a good way to introduce the stories to younger readers, and the illustrations very attractive. Carroll gives the names in Irish with proper diacritics and doesn't bother with a pronunciation guide, a refreshing or frustrating choice, depending on the reader.
Guarded Time 2 - Stephanie Hansen This book opens in media res but doesn't follow up with much explanation for dozens of characters, concepts, and situations--not even an information dump, let alone subtler explication woven into the story. And while this is the second volume in its series, it's the seventh in the "suggested reading order" of Hansen's previous books, and given that multiple chapters in Guarded Time begin with epigraphs from those books, anyone who really wants to know whats going on probably would need to read those as well. Hansen clearly loves her characters and plot, but potential readers should probably start at the top of that list.
Ruby and the Stone Age Diet β Martin Millar I opened 2025 by reading Millar's second novel and closed it by reading this one, his third. It's a much trickier novel than its predecessor: like most of Millar's works it seems straightforward, even superficial, until you start to realize how deadly clever it is. Almost too clever in places; Millar's satire can deadpan I suspect it's flown over the head of many an oblivious reader. He's also starting to experiment this with themes and elements that will pop up again in his later works, and while they don't always work as well here, it's very cool to see them in their embryonic forms. This is definitely worth reading, and I will definitely read it again.
The Tailor of Gloucester β Beatrix Potter Probably my favorite of Potterβs books. The illustrations are just stunning.
The Best Christmas Pageant Ever β Barbara Robinson An annual reread. There are many people in the world right now who I think need to read this book...alas, they wouldn't get the point even if they did.
Nimona β ND Stevenson Being a graphic novel in which Severus Snape teams up with a Murder Pixie Dream Girl to fight the system. As I was in a "fuck the system" mood all week, this suited me perfectly. It is one of those books that somehow transcends the sum of its parts, and I'm glad I finally read it. As a bonus, the omake at the end make it a seasonal read too.
Celtic Knotwork Handbook β Sheila Sturrock I don't recommend starting with Sturrock's method when learning to draw Celtic knotwork, as it's prone to generating knots with inconsistent cord widths and interlacing that violates design conventions in historic examples. That said, it is useful for plotting groups of connected panels with negative space between them. And it absolutely shines when drafting zoomorphic patterns; in fact, it's the best method for doing so that I've found anywhere.
What I Am Currently Reading
The Stations of the Sun β Ronald Hutton The first chapters start ahead of the Christmas season, so I'm a bit behind, but that's fine.
The Bright Sword β Lev Grossman This is looking to become one of my annual winter reads.
Hymn to Dionysus β Natasha Pulley Three chapters in I'm liking it quite a bit.
What Iβm Reading Next
This week I acquired Peter Heller's The Dog Stars Ronald Hutton's , Coinneach MacLeod's The Scottish Cookbook, Mike Parker Pearson's Stonehenge: A Brief History, and Malene SΓΈlvsten's Mannaz.
I Should Have Let Him In by Puns4Funs Bea's POV leading up to and during the confrontation on Odette's show. Fascinating look at what Bea might have been thinking.
2:00 AM by orphan_account "I don't understand why you're letting that asshole crash at your place," Santos says, flopping back on the couch in the break room. "Seriously, Mel. There's a reason his wife kicked him out." I enjoyed this.
This poem came out of the March 4, 2025 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from mama_kestrel and rix_scaedu. It also fills the "Old Forrest" square in my 3-1-25 card for the Tolkien Bingo Fest. This poem has been sponsored by a pool with fuzzyred. It belongs to the series One God's Story of Mid-Life Crisis.
It’s strange, and possibly borderline offensive, to suggest that an at-the-time two-time Academy Award nominee and Golden Globe-winning actor had not arrived before appearing in The Shawshank Redemption. But guess what, this is precisely what I am going to do, right now. The Shawshank Redemption did a number of things: Gave Stephen King arguably his best movie adaptation. Moved Frank Darabont from a middlin’ genre screenwriter to the Hollywood A-list. Grabbed seven Oscar nominations, including Best Picture. Became the top-rated movie of all time on IMDb. This movie did all of these things. But what it truly did, was give the world its current understanding of the phenomenon that is Morgan Freeman. Freeman came into The Shawshank Redemption appreciated, admired, awarded and accomplished. He came out of Shawshank an icon.
It’s the narration, of course. The scaffolding of the entire movie, which Freeman offers in his rich, unhurried voice, offering context and commentary low and slow. Freeman isn’t just saying the words, he’s braising them, making them tender and toothsome but with just enough wry bite to keep the audience coming back. The words Freeman is saying come from Stephen King’s novella, filtered through Darabont’s screenplay. But make no mistake. The moment he starts speaking, they are his. It’s not an exaggeration to say that more than anything else, it’s Morgan Freeman, and his voice, that have made this movie the classic it is today. Take it away, it’s just another prison drama.
Maybe that’s too dismissive. Even without the narration, it would be a very handsome, very accomplished prison drama, and one that in many ways is clearly a labor of love for Frank Darabont. Darabont spent some of the money he got for his first feature film screenplay (A Nightmare on Elm Street 3: Dream Warriors) to secure an option on “Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption” from its author Stephen King. He reportedly spent $5,000 on the option; King reportedly never cashed the check. Darabont wrote a script and took a meeting at Castle Rock Productions, home of another fellow who liked Stephen King, Rob Reiner. Reiner loved the script and wanted to direct it, offering Darabont a fair amount of money to let him do so. Darabont took less money for the opportunity to direct it himself.
I think this is was a good choice on Darabont’s part. The version of Shawshank that Reiner would have made would, I think, have been good — we have both Stand By Me and Misery to stand testament to that. That said, there’s a lightness to Rob Reiner’s work (yes, even when Annie Wilkes is taking a sledgehammer to Paul Sheldon’s ankles, we’re talking an overall gestalt), in the way he frames and lights and shoots his scenes, and in how he directs his actors. Reiner’s Shawshank would have looked and played very differently, even with the same script in hand.
Darabont doesn’t do “light” — not just in this film but in any of them. He tried to do light in The Majestic and while I like that film quite a lot, actually, boy, was he not the right director for that. Darabont is dark — well, “dark” makes it sound like he’s goth or something, which he’s not. Let’s say “somber.” He’s somber, and his frame is considered, and he doesn’t do a closeup when he’s got a perfectly good medium shot to go to. Shit, even his close-ups aren’t that close up.
I suppose a word that matches well with Shawshank’s pace and bearing is “stately.” Nothing fast, everything considered, all of it moving along in its own time. Which makes sense. Everyone in this movie is doing time. Twenty years, forty years, life. They don’t have to be in a rush for anything. So they’re not, and neither is this film.
(There are fight scenes, and they are violent, and things move fast there. Again, big picture, folks.)
Darabont’s sensibilities as a director are precisely right for the story he wants to tell here, one where we need to feel the whole wide expanse of the time these men have at their disposal, and how time itself disposes of them. One of the most celebrated parts of the film is an interlude where an older convict, one who has spent nearly all his life in the prison, is paroled and loosed upon the world — or more accurately the world is loosed upon him. “The world got itself in a big damn hurry,” he writes his friends, but Darabont doesn’t make the interlude hurry at all. He follows it, stately, to its inevitable conclusion.
There is a larger story here. It’s told mostly by Ellis “Red” Redding (Freeman) in narration, centering on his friend Andy Dufresne (Tim Robbins), who is serving two life sentences for the murder of his estranged wife and her lover. Andy doesn’t fit into prison, and not just because he was a banker in his previous life. There’s something else going on with him that makes him an odd fish. Nevertheless over time Red and his friends warm to Andy, and Andy returns the favor as the skills from his past life start to come in handy for a warden (Bob Gunton) who has big plans, not all of them on the up-and-up.
Andy is a lifer and his life is no cakewalk in prison, but he holds out hope, which is something Red doesn’t approve of. Hope of what? Hope for what? It’s never specified, and then one day an important piece of information comes to light about Andy’s crimes. Things happen not fast after that, but certainly quicker than they had before, and we discover why Red had to be the narrator after all.
In King’s novella, Red is Irish (a throwaway line in the script, played for humor, is all that remains of that), but after this movie there is no way anyone would imagine anyone else but Freeman in the role. Freeman gives the character gravitas, but not at the expense of making you forget he’s in prison, and rightfully so. Red’s a lifer, and has the perspective of a lifer. If he’s maybe a little smarter than most of the other inmates, with somewhat more perspective, it doesn’t make his position any better than theirs, and he knows it. Red has gotten to sit with his own bullshit for years and years, and Freeman’s performance reflects that fact. The character has gravitas because the world and his choices weigh on him.
That comes through, to bring everything ’round again, in the narration. Narration is almost never a very good idea in film. It usually means that you’ve come to the end of production and editing and realized, shit, some very important plot points have been left terribly unwritten in the script, quick, grab the lead and loop in some lines. Bad narration can drag a film down (see: the original version of Blade Runner, where Harrison Ford’s apparently intentional leaden line readings indicated what value he thought they brought to the film) or even make it more confusing than it was before (see: 1984’s version of Dune, which to be fair, no amount of explanatory narration could have salvaged). So why does it work here?
One, because going back all the way to King’s novella, this was always Red’s story, even as he’s telling it about Andy. The frame was always there, and always meant to be there; it wasn’t some rushed last-minute addition from the notes of a panicked studio suit. Two, because it is Morgan Freeman. That voice. That cadence. That intonation. That occasional wry remark. Freeman was nominated for Best Actor for this film, and make no mistake that the narration was a great deal of what got him the nomination. The rest of his acting is terrific, to be clear. But it’s the narration that has stayed with people over the decades. It’s arguably the most successful film narration ever.
Freeman did not win the Best Actor Oscar that year. It went to Tom Hanks for Forrest Gump. In the light of 2025, and the esteem in which Freeman’s performance is currently held, this could be seen as a puzzling choice. This is where I remind people (or, if they’re young, inform them) that The Shawshank Redemption was a box office failure when it came out in 1994. It cost $25 million to make and made only $16 million in its first spin through the theaters. The film’s seven Oscar nominations actually prompted Columbia Pictures to re-release the film in February of 1995, which goosed the domestic take up to just under $25 million. Then it came out on home video and was a monster, becoming the top video rental of 1995. That and incessant showings on basic cable, brought the movie to the esteem it has today.
But in 1994? Shawshank made less in the theaters than Forrest Gump made in its first weekend; throw in the February re-release and they draw up about even. It was a minor miracle that Shawshank was nominated for seven Oscars at all. It didn’t win any because it was up against Gump and Pulp Fiction and lots of other movies seen more by the public and by Academy voters. The only major award of any note that the film won was one it from the American Society of Cinematographers, who gave Roger Deakins their award for theatrical releases. Really, that’s pretty much it.
Fear not, for the Oscar comes to Morgan Freeman a decade later, in 2005, when he wins his statuette for Million Dollar Baby. By this time, Morgan Freeman has become Morgan Freeman, The Voice of God — literally, in the case of the film Bruce Almighty — and the most recognizable voice this side of James Earl Jones, Tim Robbins, who plays Andy Dufresne in Shawshank, will also win an Oscar, his in 2004. Curiously, both Freeman and Robbins will win their Oscars being directed by Clint Eastwood.
Does Freeman owe his eventual Oscar to Shawshank? You’ll have to imagine me making a see-saw motion here, since among other things Eastwood worked with Freeman before, notably on Unforgiven, and of course Freeman had turned in Oscar-caliber performances prior to Shawshank. But there’s no doubt that Freeman’s cultural capital had been raised considerably, and much of that comes from this role and its slow ascendance into public consciousness. Freeman is responsible for Freeman winning an Oscar. Shawshank is responsible for making Freeman, America’s Quiet Yet Comforting Voice of Authority, our very own ASMR Daddy, letting us know everything will be all right.
Morgan Freeman has become such a voice icon that there is an entire genre of internet meme devoted to putting text next to a picture of him so when you read the text, you hear him saying the words in your mind, automatically giving those words credibility, no matter what the words are. You could post the words “kittens are a wholesome and natural snack” next to Freeman’s face and suddenly at least some people would be wondering if that wasn’t true. It’s not true, by the way. Please don’t eat kittens. Also Freeman never said that. Freeman probably said none of those things that those memes attribute to him. The internet lies, people.
So instead, let me leave you with words Morgan Freeman did say, in The Shawshank Redemption, near the end of the film: “Get busy living, or get busy dying.” This is the choice Red has to consider for himself, and the choice he makes is informed by every other thing that has happened in the film. If you watched the film, you know his answer, and if you haven’t watched it I’m not going to spoil it for you now.
Either way, with or without Morgan Freeman saying them to you, I want you to consider those words in your own life, especially when things are difficult, as they so frequently are. The choices you make and the actions that come from them will make a difference to you and those around you. The Shawshank Redemption, in the end, is about this. You don’t need Morgan Freeman to tell you it’s important. But I have to tell you, it doesn’t hurt when he does.
Thanks for sticking with me for The December Comfort Watches this month. I hope the new year brings you joy, and comfort, and movies.
This is a polite reminder to all guardsmen that patrol schedules for the Senate vote ratifying dictatorships are posted in the breakroom. I am also issuing a warning to linear time that days should follow sequentially and are not intended to repeat. Please cease repeating. I am getting a headache.
Additionally, I'd like to remind all guardsmen that it is illegal to harbor invisible women in the Senate. If you see a ghost claiming to be Leia Organa, please remove her from the premises. She will be making a scene.
Thank you for your cooperation in preserving the peace of the Republic, and all hail the Empire. FOX
Fox and Leia get caught up in some timey-wimey Force shenanigans. Oh my heart...
The Spirit of Regent's Park by featherxquill Newly minted First Desk Diana Taverner visits the Folly to find out who this Thomas Nightingale fellow is, and learns a few things about London that are closer to home than she expects. Excellent crossover! Now I want all the crossovers between all these characters!
Top o Nerae! Gunbuster is 37 years old β and still garners attention. CDJapan notified me that a SuperGroupies Gunbuster Model Wristwatch is available. (Iβm not sure why I got a notification this week; the watch was released at the beginning of the year.) Itβs a gorgeous watch with color and trim that perfectly match the Gunbuster mecha. Coach Otaβs name is engraved on the buckle, and the Earth Imperial Space Force emblem is engraved on the crown. Unlike the original Gunbuster, the watch doesnβt transform, unfortunately.
Sometimes I still get comments and kudos on Transfigurations and my other Harry Potter stories.
Of course I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, fandom belongs to the fans, and the outpouring of love and work and time that created the fandom was ours and remains ours. On the other hand, I don't like the ongoing link to someone who has traded in a career as an author for one as a full-time pro-hate activist.
I don't want to take the stories down. I don't want to orphan them. I just want to be able to take some pleasure in them again.
So starting with 2026, I'm making donations to https://transgenderlawcenter.org and https://give.thetrevorproject.org in honor of fanreaders. That way when the titles come up in my email, I'll have a nice, warm feeling knowing that they're connected with people who are doing something positive for the lives of trans people.
Steven Spotswood, _Dead in the Frame_ -- the latest Parker and Pentecost mystery, in which the narrator and her boss solve the mystery her boss was being framed for, and another murder that the cops had been ignoring, which turns out to be related. The solution is not at all what I was expecting, on a couple of levels. The book is also about the narrator's friendship with her boss, and the romantic relationship with another woman, which has her navigating various levels of homophobia. (Late 1940s, New York City.)
Malka Older, _The Potency of Ungovernable Impulses_ -- the third of the investigations of Mossa and Pleiti, this one set largely at a university, with academic rivalries and an invention that could threaten various profitable businesses. Still on the implausible, hopefully temporary colony in the atmosphere of Jupiter.
These fit together, which I didn't realize until I sat down to post this.
That makes 39 books for the year, plus short fiction, blog posts, and a few things abandoned partway through.
Title: The world according to historical Chinese dramas (from the perspective of your mum as she does the washing) Fandom: Your Mum Does the Washing β Joshua Idehun Challenge: Clean
So this is just gonna be a Stranger Things thoughts post! The second volume of the season went live on Christmas Day night (absurd time to put it out honestly) but I was t able to watch till Saturday night. I had hoped to do multiple eps per night, but alas tiredness won out, so I spread them out over the last three nights.
So! Thoughts ahoy!
(I really need a bunch more Stranger Things icons, expect a few in the new year when I have the focus)
Iβm not entirely sure when Iβll watch the last ep. It might be New Years Day Night but that very much depends on my energy which tends to be so off now. So maybe Friday or Saturday instead.
Hopefully Iβll have a more general post tomorrow or Friday too, but ai know snowflake starts tomorrow so thereβll be at least that.
Wichita (1226 words) by Anonymous Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Mad Men Rating: General Audiences Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Characters: Bob Benson, Pete Campbell Summary:
Pete can't get to Wichita.
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Perfect Pete Campbell voice that made me howl laughing. I deeply enjoy his pain.
Title: Traitor Fandom: Babylon 5 Author:badly_knitted Characters: Garibaldi, Bester. Rating: PG Word Count: 300 Spoilers/Setting: The Face of the Enemy. Summary: Now that Bester has restored Garibaldi’s memories, Garibaldi must find a way to fix what he’s done. Content Notes: None needed. Written For: Challenge 501: Amnesty 83, using Challenge 144: Memory. Disclaimer: I don’t own Babylon 5, or the characters. They belong to J. Michael Straczynski. A/N: Triple drabble.
First of all, I finished the Murderbot gen action WIP that I've been posting in installments. (It also ended up being the longest thing I've put on AO3 since 2022 ...)
Combat System Critical (Murderbot TV-verse, 20K wds, gen) SecUnit is on Preservation when an attempted assassination on a PresAux team member turns a quiet retreat at a backwater university into a fight for survival.
Brief spoilery notes on the Murderbot ficI've had the idea of Gurathin's augments allowing him to survive being shot in the head with an energy weapon since I've been writing fic in this fandom, so that was the detail on which this plot pivoted. Of course then it took me absolutely ages to actually get to that part! I was a little worried that some other fic would do it in the meantime, and honestly I'm a little surprised that no one has.
And my annual New Year's fic is up! Babylon 5 this time.
Brief spoilery notes on the B5 ficI went back and forth on whether to keep the final Londo & G'Kar scene (or maybe include it as apocryphal, or an outtake), and end on the hopeful note of Lochley and the new Ambassadors instead. That final scene is just pure self-indulgence (and maybe a bit of emotional h/c), but I decided to keep it; is it really a proper B5 fic if it doesn't stab you in the heart at some point?
I also liked the idea of doing B5 for my New Year's fic this year since the show itself is arranged around the turn of the year.
Fandoms include: The Complete Tales of Peter Rabbit and Friends by Beatrix Potter Critical Role: Exandria Final Fantasy X Hollow Knight / Silksong: Legend of Zelda (Breath of the Wild / Tears of the Kingdom; Link's Awakening) Original work Sailor Moon Sherlock Holmes Soulcalibur Spy x Family Stargate Atlantis W.I.T.C.H.
books The Impossible Fortune (Thursday Murder Club #5) by Richard Osman. This one just didn't grab me. Too many criminals, not enough Murder Club.
Xmas was good, though delayed until Monday. I had a nice time, even if one of my gifts to my parents was redundant. The food was pretty great, though.
yarning/etsy My Rock Star Lestat art doll sold on Christmas Day! Yay!! After which I finished a donation hat. And then another hat while reading Yuletide. I missed yarn group due to traveling for Xmas, though I got a commission for a Kermit green kickbunny, so I worked on that over my belated holiday. And I got a commission for an Older Daniel Molloy art doll yesterday, yay, so I'll be working on that over the next couple of days.
yuletide reveals are tomorrow! Yay!
#resist Tuesday, January 20: #50501 Free America Walk-out, 2pm local time. https://www.FreeAmeri.ca
Happy New Year, everyone! Please be safe as you enjoy kicking 2025 to the curb! <333
I know intellectually that six days is not the longest I've spent indoors, but I notice that even the knee replacement four years ago only kept me in for seven. Oh dear.
Dreamed of having to leave my dream!house at night to consult a professor? police detective? some kind of expert? because there was an unwrapped mummy!!! under my bed eww yuck. He sent his minions in and discovered that there were actually four of the things so I couldn't go home till they'd been disposed of. Turned on my other side and dreamed of going to what passed for the daycare to see my old friend L who was still business co-ord, but problems kept cropping up and she couldn't get away. So I wandered into the Infant section where my old coworker S was changing a baby. Neither L nor S have been at the DC since the turn of the millennium, or possibly before-- unreliable memory says both left in 1999-- but that baby I remember well. He had no off switch when it came to food and we always had to cut him off after three large bowls, to his extreme displeasure. His umm leavings were in proportion to his intake, which was bad enough when he was still in diapers but disastrous when it came to toilet training. Ah yes, I remember B well.
Woke in cold and started downstairs to see if it was just the thermostat set to moderate or if the vent had somehow got blocked. Furnace came on as I was still descending, but since I was there I steeled myself to check what damage holiday indulgence had wrought. A kilo, which could be much worse, but eventually I must stop drinking Black Russians and start drinking more water. And moving more somehow.
Anyway, went up to Loblaws for pharmaceuticals. No sane person shops on New Year's Eve but it wasn't that bad. Of course there were fields of ridged ice at several street corners and driveways, but that's winter in this here burg. Snow and snowflurries expected all week but will eventually get that book back to the library. And my backup lenses from the Extremely Expensive But Reliable company arrived in good order, so I now have eight weeks' worth, by which time maybe my preferred company will at last get the two boxes of 90 each that I ordered out to me. Knew I shouldn't have ordered two boxes-- absolutely tempting fate-- but I'm tired of having to a) order a month in advance every two months and b) wait on tenterhooks to see if c) they have them in stock or d) if they're on backorder and if so, e) will there be a postal strike that prevents them getting to me? This got old years ago.
Reading-wise, finished Silverlock. Mr. Google cannot in fact tell who everyone is, even though there's a webpage that has some annotations. http://anitra.net/commonwealth/refindex.html
Jeeves and the Knot in the Tie of Time (8768 words) by Anonymous Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Jeeves - P. G. Wodehouse Rating: Teen And Up Audiences Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Reginald Jeeves/Bertram "Bertie" Wooster Characters: Bertram "Bertie" Wooster, Reginald Jeeves Additional Tags: Time Loop, Humor, Pining, Misunderstandings, POV Bertram "Bertie" Wooster, First Kiss, Bertie to the rescue! ...well sort of., he rallies as best he can, Yuletide 2025 Summary:
βI am trapped in a time loop, sir,β confessed Jeeves, at long last. βAh, these things are sent to try us,β said I.
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Or: In which time develops a knot, a valet does not know how to unravel it, and a young master suggests a household remedy from tales of old.
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Top-hole Wodehouse pastiche with time loops, one of my favorite tropes.
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I haven't made my list yet, because that's part of tomorrow's task list. However, the post for 2026 New Year's Resolutions and Other Goals is up on goals_on_dw for folks who do theirs on December 31. Go check it out! Pass the word to anyone you think might be interested, especially when you see people posting about their goals. There's also a Masterlist of Alternatives for those who hate resolutions and/or feel overextended already.
Title: All I Want For Christmas Fandom: Spooks (MI5) Rating: G Length: 511 words Summary: Don't believe all that you see Also written for ficlet_zone Mariah Cary challenge
My total words for December was just over 10K, bringing my final total for the year to 121K, which means I reached my goal, but with only 2 days to spare!
One celebration is that for the end of 2025 I have 1,500 works posted to AO3, which is rather clever - totally unplanned.
Once more there isn't much to link to. Yuletide is still anonymous of course. So here are my two main works:
New research reveals a brighter side of ADHD, showing that adults who recognize and use their strengths feel happier, healthier, and less stressed. People with ADHD were more likely to identify traits like creativity, humor, and hyperfocus as personal strengths. Across the board, using these strengths was linked to better quality of life and fewer mental health symptoms. The study suggests that embracing strengths could be a game-changer for ADHD support.
Therefore, pressuring or forcing someone to behave against their nature is abuse.
Be yourself. Don't apologize for who you are. Find your strengths. Especially with neurodiverse people, there is usually something you excel at that "normal" people suck at. Capitalize on that. You deserve to be healthy and happy.
It's the end of the year, which means it's time for my taking stock of my balances in various frequent traveler points programs. This blog will be for airlines. A blog later this week will cover hotel programs.
Once upon a time I celebrated growing big balances of airline miles/points. I remember, for example, when a colleague and I were talking about having amassed 250,000 miles each on United after lots of job travel. "It's wild to think I could buy 10 people round-trip tickets anywhere in the continental US," he quipped.
The difference between then & now is that 250k no longer buys 10 round-trip flights between New York and San Francisco. Many days you'd be lucky if it buys three. Inflation is as much a thing in the points economy as it is in the real economy. Actually, it's worse. It's worse because there's no place to invest points to protect their value. Holding points is like keeping cash in a mattress. Keep a small balance that way? Meh. Keep a big balance that way? Holy smokes, no! Thus I consider having a big balance of points a risk. You'll see that how I characterize my balances in the following summaries.
β¬οΈ Southwest Airlines: Amassing another Mountain (of Risk!)
I've called my American Airlines points (see below) a mountain for many years as I've hovered over 750k with them. I've now built my Southwest balance up to that level. I finish 2025 with 770,000 Rapid Rewards points. That's a new high... and that's not a good thing, for the reasons I outlined above.
My Rapids Rewards balance with Southwest zoomed forward because I spent a lot of the year chasing status with them. My business travel is down from even a few years ago, so to keep renewing elite status I did most of my leisure flying on cash vs. on points. I would've preferred to spend points and save cash, but here I decided chasing status was more important. I cinched Companion Pass in September and made A-List Preferred again with the help of a mileage run in late December.
All that status-chasing helped me earn 229,000 redeemable points with Southwest. I spent less than 28k points. Thus my balance lands at about 770k. Three-quarters of a million.
For 2026 my goal is to spend down that balance. 770k is way too much to have stuffed in a mattress. But I'll see if I'm content to give up the status chase into 2027. π¨
βοΈ United Airlines: Earn and Burn (but Mostly Earn)
I seem to alternate between up and down years with my United MileagePlus miles. After having a down year with UA last year and also in 2023— remember, down is good, because I'm redeeming points to secure value from them— 2025 was an up year. My points boosted from 62,000 to 177,000.
It's not that I flew UA a lot, though. I earned only 18k from butt-in-seat time. The lion's share of my points are from credit card sign-up bonuses. I opened two of them in the past 14 months that paid in 2025. Together they paid 200,000 points. So why didn't my balance zoom up to almost 300k? That's because while I earned a lot of points this year I also burned more than half of them, redeeming them for flights and other awards— and making sure to do so at decent rates.
Status-wise I maintain Premier Gold with United, a benefit of reaching Million Miler lifetime status years ago. What's the value of that status? Plenty, actually. First, I can reserve a seat in Economy Plus at booking. Those seats with extra legroom are a valuable perk that make flying actually bearable. It's worth at least a few tens of dollars per flight. That's what UA and other airlines charge to reserve comparable seats without sufficient elite status. Then there's free checked bags. I used that a few times. Then there's lounge access when traveling internationally. We had a good time relaxing at the Air Canada Maple Leaf lounge in Toronto in August. Oh, and my designated partner gets all these Premier Gold benefits, too, since I'm a Million Miler. Upgrades? Yes, those are a benefit, though as a lowly Gold it's rare I get one. I did score one coming home from Toronto. All in all these aren't gonzo benefits, but as little as I fly United anymore— not enough to earn even Silver status on a per-year basis— I certainly appreciate the lifetime status from my blood, sweat, and tears of the past.
For 2026 my plan with United is to continue spending down my balance. I don't think that'll be too hard as 177k points isn't a lot anymore. I spent about 107k this year, and that was just for a few, unexciting flights. The only question is, will 2026 be another year of spending on a bunch of small award flights like I did this pat year, or will I find an opportunity to spend a lot of points on something big, like a fun overseas trip? I hope for the latter.
βΈοΈ American Airlines: Paused atop the Mountain
I've had a crazy big balance with AA for years now. What's "crazy big"? If you thought my three-quarters of a million with Southwest was wild, try this on for size: I have nearly 900,000 AA points.
What's even crazier is that this is exactly what I had last year, too. In 2025 I didn't earn a mile with AA, I didn't spend a mile with AA. I have almost a million miles in their program, and I didn't do a damn thing with them.
My plan with AA in 2026 is the same as it has been for years now: find good ways to spend all those points!
↔οΈ Delta: 15k and Not Even Trying
Rounding out the list here is Delta Airlines. While it's been over two years since I flew on AA it's been at least three since I set foot on Delta or one of their partners. I retain a pile of points with them— though it's a waaaay smaller pile than with AA. It's not a mountain but a molehill. My balance of Delta Skymiles is a mere 15k.
My plan with Delta in 2026 is also the same as it has been for several years new. I will keep ignoring Delta π€£ until their flights and offerings seem relevant to me again. Meanwhile, my paltry 15k miles never expire. Though by the time I grow them into something useful that 15k might only be enough to buy a sandwich in-flight.
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